Friday, December 23, 2011

This night 7 years ago changed my life


On December 23 seven years ago Kennon asked me to be his wife, and every year since has only gotten better. I know we all think our proposal story is the greatest and rightly should! If you would enjoy hearing another one that is also kind of a tear jerker, here is ours as I wrote it soon after we were engaged.

Kennon LOVES surprises and made sure this was the best one ever! Clueless to what was coming... I headed to Memphis December 23 for a white elephant Christmas party with all Kennon's friends. We were leaving the party early, but the host (Chris Hill) insisted we still pick a gift. Kennon, appearing to randomly grab a bag, unwrapped a simple, red Christmas ornament. A friend pointedly told Kennon looks can be deceiving and not to judge a book by its cover. After getting in the car, I started shaking the ornament and popped the top but stated I didn't see a thing. Kennon said, "Are you sure? I think maybe I see something!" After a couple of looks, I found a small note inside. "Man looks at the outward appearance but the Lord looks at the heart... proceed to Wilson Chapel where you'll find your gift" I excitedly thought it was a scavenger hunt for the Christmas party.

Upon arriving at the chapel we found a shoe box with a hammer and another red ornament reading "Remember When..." Breaking the ornament, I found another note. "Let's walk down memory lane and remember God's faithfulness in our relationship." The chapel doors were open with candles lining the center aisle and hanging down the pews were 7 red stockings and 7 red ornaments representing the 7 months we'd been dating. Every stocking held unique memorabilia from things we'd done each month and after breaking each ornament...inside were two pieces of paper...a red paper with a scripture for me to read and a green one with a Psalm for Kennon to read.

After the last ornament, Kennon told me he wanted to look back and thank God together for what He'd done in our relationship and for the future. So we went down to the front of the church and knelt at the alter to pray. Before praying, he pulled a piece of paper out of his Bible and shared with me a list he had made a few years ago of Biblical "must haves" for his wife and a list of "icing" traits.  After thanking the Lord for His faithfulness and asking his continued blessing and guidance in our relationship, Kennon took my hand to lead me up the steps of the front platform.

He begin to tell me why this chapel was so special to him. His father passed away when he was in high school, and Wilson Chapel was where the memorial service took place. He pointed to where he had sat during that very service thinking of how he was losing his best friend. Then Kennon turned to me and said how special it would be to gain his new best friend for the rest of his life in this same place. He read Genesis 2 about the Lord taking a rib from the man to fashion the woman and creating her as a helpmate for him. Suddenly Kennon was on one knee proposing! After about 2 seconds of absorbing the utter joy and surrealness of the moment, I confidently and excitedly exclaimed YES!

Before leaving the chapel, Kennon told me he had one more thing to give me. Knowing how much I love to journal, he had a baby blue leather journal with "Kathryn Vaughan" on the front cover. He had written me a note on the first page that the gift was for me to record every special moment of our engagement.

When we got back to his house, he opened the front door and shouted "she said yes!" as our families starting cheering. In shock I stood staring into a video camera surrounded by my family, his family, and Emily Brooks who had first introduced us. The perfect ending with our families...to a perfect night that was the beginning of becoming our own family.


Saturday, December 17, 2011

Sixty-three Years of Marriage & Capturing a Family Legacy

My grandparents recently celebrated 63 years of marriage! A few years ago I video taped an interview with Papa and Mimi. In a time where divorce due to "irreconcilable differences"plague our country, my grandparents passed on some wise words to me and my siblings on what it takes to develop a marriage that will last a lifetime. Celebrity Scarlet Johansson was quoted on ending her three-year marriage to Ryan Reynolds saying, "I wasn't fully aware of the peaks and valleys. I wasn't prepared to hunker down and do the work." She got one thing right. Marriage is work. Love is so much more than a feeling. Love is an act of the will accompanied by emotion that leads to action on behalf of its object. Below is a clip of my grandparents talking about their marriage. You will want to get a kleenex before you watch!



Papa is currently in the last stage of Alzheimer's. He doesn't know any of us, even Mimi. He is still as kind and sweet natured as ever, but it breaks my heart to see him unable to complete a sentence, a phrase, a thought. He keeps asking to go home... his childhood home. After spending a few weeks under observation by Alzheimer's specialists, it was recommended he go to an Alzheimer's home. But Mimi said she couldn't live with herself if we didn't let her bring him home and try one more time at caring for him herself. Mimi has always been the picture of faith, and this is the first time I can ever remember seeing her discouraged. But she asks for our prayers, presses on, and shows us all a picture of true love. Love that is a selfless action grounded in commitment and faith and yes still accompanied by emotion. I am so thankful my dear Papa has her as his wife, and I'm thankful for the standard and example she is setting for me.

If your elderly loved ones are still alive I hope you too will consider creating a video legacy of memories that can be passed down to future generations. I am so grateful I made our video before Papa's Alzheimer's set in. A few questions I asked them included: What was your home like growing up? What were your parents like and how did they meet? I also had them tell me every one's full names and asked questions about their great grandparents, grandparents, parents, aunts, uncles, siblings, and cousins. How did you come to know Christ? What did you do for fun growing up? How much did things cost? What were the major technological advances in your generation? How did you meet? What have been the greatest joys and greatest struggles in your marriage? What advice would you say to every future generation of your family legacy? So many others questions will naturally snowball.

Take advantage of the holidays with family and make some memorials to pass on to future generations!

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Got moves like his daddy!

Luke could not leave the Children's Museum until he got to hit the disco room. Break it down Luke!

Friday, November 25, 2011

Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving! 
Thanking God for our Lord & Savior Jesus Christ and the many many blessings in our life especially family and friends!

We went on our own pre-Thanksgiving turkey trot to prepare for the feast with Kennon's family.


Kennon's Family:
Mamadoll, Harrison, Ben and Lauren, Mary Paige and Elizabeth, Emily and Daniel, Luke, Me, Caleb, and Kennon


This little guy was napping and missed the big family photo


Mamadoll and the grandkids


Caleb, Luke, Mary Paige, and Elizabeth loved Mamdoll's new chalk wall 


 The boys' Thanksgiving art work


Making Pumpkin Bread with Cinnamon Honey Butter
 

Our Thanksgiving Tree Tradition: Count Your Blessings



Thursday, November 17, 2011

Resource for Advent Traditions

I recently taught a seminar on discipling your small children and shared how we do our family devotions each night and also talked a lot about making special traditions in your home. I recently ordered a little booklet called Advent and Christmas in Family Worship. I'm excited to use the readings and hymns during our family devotions and the other activities to make Advent a special and fun time. Every day of Advent we want to be reminding the kids why we celebrate Christmas and build their excitement each day for Jesus' birthday!
The booklet includes:
  • Devotional readings and discussions for each day during the 4 weeks of Advent
  • Hymns and carols that coordinate with each reading
  • An explanation of the Advent season and Advent Wreaths
  • Fun Advent Projects and crafts to to with the kids
I purchased it from  www.doorposts.com, a great web site for Bible-based parenting and character training material. (This is also where I also got our "If-Then" and "Blessing" charts which I showed in the seminar.) If you're interested, you could probably still get the Advent booklet here before December 1, and it's on sale right now!
Happy Holidays!

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Vaughan Birthdays!


Jonathan turned ONE on Halloween!


Birthday boy


The whole neighborhood was celebrating on Jonathan's birthday with candy for everyone :-) Caleb wanted to be a pirate this year. Luke was a race car driver (with a pirate sword), and Jonathan was Superman.


Pirate Caleb in the neighbor's tree.


Luke ready for the Indy 500


Lil Superman Vaughan


Flying high with daddy.


The birthday boy ready for bed.


Clip from Jonathan's Birthday



Caleb turned FOUR on November 7!
He has really been into pirates this year, so we went with a pirate themed birthday party. We had a backyard full of his fellow "crew mates" to help him go on a birthday treasure hunt.

Caleb had so much fun filling Loot Bags for all his friends.


We then put all the Loot Bags in a Treasure Chest for daddy to bury for the treasure hunt.


The pirates found the treasure chest!


Caleb with half his crew filling their Loot Bags with gold coins from the rock pit.


Next they had to bomb the sea montser with water balloons from the ship to get away with their Loot.

I blew up a nearly life size poster photo of Caleb in his pirate costume, and they played pin the patch on the pirate. Trey nailed it!


Caleb said his favorite part of the party was the pirate ship birthday cake with the Veggie Tale Pirates Who Don't Do Anything aboard! And no, I did not make this amazing cake! You can't see it but on the front of the sail it says "Happy Birthday Caleb" and the top sail has a "4" on it.


Caleb decided to take his favorite Gibson's Donuts (sprinkles) to school for his birthday treat to share.



Clip from Caleb's Birthday

Monday, October 24, 2011

DownLine Summit: Women of Legacy


I am so excited about the DownLine Women's Summit this weekend in Memphis at Faith Baptist Church! I have had the privilege of hearing all the main stage speakers, and they each have a unique and gifted ability to teach in a way that moves your heart AND your mind toward the things of God. To learn more about Vicki Courtney, Carol Kent, Donna Gaines, Ariyana Rimson, and Cheri Holcomb; the schedule for the weekend; and how to register click here.

My husband founded DownLine Ministries, and it has been a great privilege and blessing to watch the Lord grow the ministry and see people's lives changed as they catch the vision for discipleship and experience the radical growth and maturity in Christ it produces. I'm looking forward to emceeing the conference with my friend Ariyana Rimson who co-directs the DownLine Emerging Leaders program. We're going to have a great time as we're refreshed, revived, and hear from the Lord through these women on how to leave a lasting legacy in other women and our own children.

Donna, Vicki, and I will be teaching in workshops on discipling your children in different seasons. I'm looking forward to sharing some things Kennon and I have done even in this young season to be intentional discipling our toddler/ preschool age boys. It's been a learning experience but lots of fun. I'll share the Biblical principles that inspire and guide our day to day routines and many of our daily, weekly, and yearly traditions that keep pointing our kiddos to Christ. We'll talk about discipline and honor and cultivating a home of worship. I've found in this season of parenting small children, we have to keep a vision before us so that we're parenting proactively. Reactive parenting wears you down real fast... I've been there and still fight not to go there! Psychologists say 1-4 are the most formative years in a child's life, and we'll talk about how to lay a firm foundation in our young children. Vicki is doing a seminar on discipling your tweens and Donna on discipling your teens. So there is something for all you moms!

If you can make it happen, this Summit will be a blessing not just for a weekend refreshing but for years to come! Hope to see you ladies there!
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